Monday, October 31, 2011

Random Thought: Are You Choosing Short-Term or Long Term Men???



Hey Beautiful People!

I've decided that in between longer posts I will share random thoughts that I have during the week.

Today's Random Thought is: Are you choosing Short-Term or Long-Term Men?
So often we rush into relationships without considering the implications of our choices. I believe that if we take time to really get to know a man there will be tell-tell signs as to whether he's in it for the long haul or looking for a short lived love affair.

*Some men are looking for the next thing as opposed to a lifetime thing! I'm a lifetime chick, how about you?




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Friday, October 21, 2011

Confidently Single: Knowing What You Need


Recently, I was forced to take stock of exactly what it is I want in a relationship. I had been seeing a young man for some time and needed to decide whether I was "In" or "Out". Simply put was I going to make him my man or continue dating?

My age and dating experience have provided me with a crystal clear picture of what I need from my man. His love has to be intense and somewhat overbearing. I say this because I want to know with every fiber of my being that this man truly loves me. He must be attentive and willing to sacrifice for me.  I ask this simply because I would be willing to do it for him. He has to be emotionally mature and responsible when it comes to his affairs, among other things.

Being Confidently Single means you unequivocally know what you need from a relationship and will not settle for anything less than that.

The things I listed above are what I need from a relationship. But do you know what you need? Perhaps you don't need someone who loves you as intensely as I would like. That's fine! Yet, you must figure it out in order to secure it.

If you are a bit uncertain about what it is you need to be fulfilled (in love) a good place to start is discovering your Love Language. Actually this is a good tool for anyone who wants to be in a happy & healthy union.


Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, created a quiz which can determine whether your primary love language is Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, or Physical Touch. Take the 30 second version here, http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/30-second-quizzes/love/ or the 10 minute version here, http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/?profiletype=singles

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Monday, October 17, 2011

Confidently Single Series...


Today marks the beginning of the Confidently Single Series. In order to have the healthy, loving, and committed relationships we want, we must become our best selves. So often females look outside of themselves for causes of relationship deterioration. Yes some men cheat, lie, and are downright dirty. But I truly believe in order to break the cycle you must look within. Hence, the Confidently Single series. This series will provide you with the tools needed to secure the relationship you've always desired.






When a woman is Confidently Single she's:

Baggage Free 

 Self Assured

Emotionally Mature 

Has Minimal Insecurities

Puts Herself First



The bottom line is when a woman is CS she becomes more attractive to men, particularly good men! The first installment will be up in the next few days, please keep an eye out for it. And remember your man is closer than you think!




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Saturday, October 8, 2011

Advice by Dream


For as long as I can remember I have been the girl that other girls come to for advice, particularly when it concerns dating and relationships. Why is this?  Simply because I offer non-sugar coated truth, encouragement, prayer, and am well versed in parting ways with anything that does not add VALUE to my life, including men.

Today I open up this blog to my readers. You will be the authors. Please pose questions (in the Comments section) related to dating/relationships and I will offer honest and supportive advice. Feel free to post as anonymous to protect your privacy.


Thanks & I Look Forward to Your Responses!



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