Friday, September 30, 2011

Cosmo Style Quiz: Are You a Settler Chick???

So often men and women settle for spouses that are no good for them. We know that every relationship takes work; but if you are the only one working something is wrong.  If you allow your spouse to talk down to you, hit you, cheat on and/or manipulate you, you are settling!

This week I've created a Cosmo-style quiz which you can take to determine whether you are a Not-so-Patiently Waiting Girl, a Borderline Babe, or the Settler Chick.  Let's get started and remember to be as honest as possible.

Are You a Settler???

1. The guy you're seeing flirts shamelessly with other women all the time...
a) You ignore it & chalk it up to boys being boys
b) You say to him in a playful way "Have you always been so flirty?"
c) You shut him down and tell him that if he continues flirting with other women in your presence, he will no longer be blessed with your presence

2. After a looonnngg period of being single you meet a guy who is not your type physically or mentally (He's inconsistent & inattentive)...
a) You get to know him hoping he will grow on you
b) Go out with him despite his shortcomings because you're bored
c) Pass on the opportunity because you're more than sure he's not the one

3.  Your boo, the guy you're sooo into tells you that although you've been seeing each other (with benefits) for 4 months he's not ready for a relationship...
a) He's so fine that you continue seeing him in hopes that things will eventually work out
b) You move on knowing that there are plenty of men willing to be more than just your friend
c) You remain a jumpoff/friend and proceed to show him what a great wifey you can be by cooking, cleaning, and sexing him just right

4. The man you call your boyfriend/babyfather/husband, whom you love with all your heart has been caught cheating on you, again...
a) You cry, scream, curse, and eventually forgive him because he promises not to do it again
b) You decide to get back at him by having a fling of your own
c) You remind him of how it feels not to have a good woman and leave his sorry behind

5. Your boyfriend of 2 years says he's bored and wants an open relationship...
a) You laugh in his face & tell him to kick rocks, you have too much going for yourself to share a man
b) You tell him you'll think about it, hoping he will forget the idea altogether
c) You go along with it because you love him & don't want to lose him

See Below to Tally Your Score & Read Your Results!

Answer Grid
1. a-0, b-1, c-2
2. a-0, b-1, c-2
3. a-1, b-2, c-0
4. a-0, b-0, c-2
5. a-2, b-1, c-0

Not-so-Patiently Waiting Girl (7-10 points)
You have evolved past the point of settling for a man, even if you love him. You know your worth and refuse to tolerate disrespect of any kind. No man can belittle you, lie to you, or cheat on you without consequences. Keeping a man is not more important than keeping yourself.

Borderline Babe (4-6 points)
You are aware of your tendency to settle and usually do so because you are bored, lonely, or need a boost of self confidence. You have not yet crossed the line into being the Settler Chick but can slip any moment if you stop reading this blog :-) You know you deserve the best when it comes to dating & relationships and now you must do the work necessary to get it.

The Settler Chick (0-3 points)
I think most of us have been here at some point. You take whatever a man throws at you. He can belittle you, cheat on you, and use you for sex among other things. You allow him to deposit all types of filth into your life because you think loving him is more important than loving yourself. Let these losers go and become the priceless woman God created you to be. (Feel free to contact me for support, sometimes letting go of a man is like getting drugs out of your system, prepare for withdrawal) If no one has ever told you this before I will, YOU DESERVE BETTER!

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Peace & Blessings Dolls!

Monday, September 12, 2011

Will Work For Love™

What are you willing to do for love?

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Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Courting for Marriage! What it is & Why I won't do anything else...


So I'm thinking about instituting a new procedure of sorts when it comes to dating & relationships.  It is my contention that Dating is for SUCKERS. And honestly I'm tired of being a sucker! At 31 the idea of dating guy after guy is extremely unappealing. Yet, I know it's necessary to kiss a lot of frogs in order to get to my prince. (Side note, one of my frogs reminded me of that recently.)

Instead of dating frog after frog I would like to be courted for marriage.  Courting for marriage is when two people come together with the sole purpose of getting to know one another to determine if they are suited for marriage.  They spend time together and go on dates but the difference is there is a mutual understanding that the end goal is marriage.  Of course this can only take place between two mature individuals. And it will not always result in happily ever after. Especially since one or both of you may stumble upon the fact that you don't really like each other. However, I think starting out with the end goal in mind is not only helpful but may lead to greater success.

You can't continue doing the same things and expect different results.  Dating hasn't worked for me so it's time to take a different approach.  Wish me luck!!!!

What do you think???

Will Work For Love™ (Reveal in 5 days)