Wednesday, July 27, 2011

The 3 Keys To A Man's Heart (According To a Man)

Ladies, do you spend too much time trying to figure guys out, Or attempting to understand why they do the things they do?
No fear, In this weeks video blog a man shares with us: how to tell the difference between a man who is giving lip service or one who is genuine, signs that a man is really into you, and advice for navigating the wild world of dating....


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Thursday, July 7, 2011

A 10 Year Old Tells Me I Need a Man (ain't this a b*tch)

Yesterday, as I walked with my friend Phil, he suddenly turned to me and said "You need a boyfriend".  Now Phil happens to be an extremely intelligent and mature 10 year old boy.  I couldn't help but laugh.  Even a child can recognize that my being single is just NOT RIGHT! When I finally stopped laughing I asked why do you say that.  In a child's simplicity he answered "What if you need help moving something heavy?"  I nodded in agreement. Phil was absolutely right in his assessment.  There have been numerous times where I have been faced with this dilemma and been mad that there was no man present to help me.  I went on to tell him that if I really need help I would call my dad or a male friend.  He shook his head as if that wasn't enough.  Phil wasn't buying it.

Ohhhhh, if matters of the heart were that easy.  How do you explain to a 10 year old all the bullsh*t that goes along with finding a "boyfriend".  Should I have said "I had a boyfriend but we broke up because he said he needed to "focus" on himself?" Nah, that would've been too much. So we agreed to disagree.

My last relationship ended a year ago and ended horribly.  I thought this guy was "the one".  He adored me, held me, and most importantly his actions indicated that he truly loved me.  Obviously love wasn't enough.  I watched him and our love unravel right before my eyes.  This man who had often spoke of our future together eventually told me (after our 1 year anniversary) that he needed time alone to pursue his career.  I can't even explain how that felt.  I was livid and devastated all at once.  The only thing that kept me going was the fact that I knew this man wasn't who God wanted me to marry.  How did I know?  Just days before my then boyfriend dropped this bomb, I inadvertently said to God (not thinking anything of it) Please show me if _________ is the man for me.

Wow! I did not expect an answer so quick. And looking back I wish I would have said that prayer right after our first date :-) but you live and you learn.  Here I am, a year later.  Still faithful, and certain that my man is coming.  And he's not just any man, he's THE man.  The one created for me.  I refuse to let my past hurts interfere with my present blessings.

Ladies, I implore you.  Don't give up hope, your man is closer than he's ever been!

                                                                               Me & Phil