On Sunday I watched the movie He's Just Not That Into You (for the 1st time) and was disgusted by what I saw. I watched a beautiful young woman desperately pursue men who didn't want her. I watched another woman enter into a sexual relationship with a married man, because she thought he might be "the one". And if that wasn't enough, throughout the film these women are encouraged by friends to accept men's dreadful behavior. No, No, No, Not Feeling it!
When something upsets me so much I always take the time to do some soul searching to discover why. And the reason is this, I have been that desperate pursuer (Ugh, Can't Believe I'm Admitting to That). Not only have I been the pursuer but I have also been the friend trying to justify some of the unbelievably stupid things men do!
Thank God for growth because I am neither one of those things now. I am convinced that if we saw ourselves the way God sees us we would never resort to chasing men or accepting unacceptable behavior. One of the reasons why healthy relationships are so rare now a days is because the natural order has been tossed aside. Men no longer have to do the pursuing, which is in their nature to do. You mess with the natural order of things and you have to deal with the consequences.
As for me, I know that pursuing a man and dealing with atrocious behavior is OUT OF THE QUESTION. God says He who finds a wife finds a good thing. Prov 18:22 Therefore we do not have to look or pursue! God also says that woman is the glory of man. 1 Cor 11:7 If we are his glory shouldn't we expect to be treated as such.
I believe what God says and will wait for my man knowing that he is seeking me and that I am his glory. Instead of trying to reverse the natural order of the universe I will wait patiently and be my glorious, feminine, vulnerable self.
Why don't you join me????? :-)